Dear
Grandma,
My
husband and are pretty sexual people and love to have sex all the
time. But lately he's been questioning why I
can only orgasm in one position
(missionary), I've never really thought about it myself until he
asked me because I thought all women were that way. I tried to
explain to him that sex with women is
not like what he sees in porn videos where the
woman can get off standing on her head, but he wasn't satisfied with
that. Then the other day I saw a survey that
had been taken by like a hundred women,
and 95% all said that doggie style and being on top was best
position for an orgasm. I've tried alot of clitoral stimulation that
way, but its still impossible. Am I missing
something or what?
Sincerely,
Befuddled
My dear, there's nothing wrong with
you at all. In fact, you're doing better than 50% of women because
you can actually HAVE an orgasm. And you can have it during
intercourse... many women can only get there through manual
stimulation.
As for position, whatever works for
you is fine. The Hite Report (by Shere Hite) in the 70's found that
some women could only come with their legs pressed tightly together,
while others had to have them spread. It's a similar thing with
positions. Getting it all together depends on what you like, and how
you like it, and there's no "normal".
And what you're thinking can
sometimes make a difference. Some women love the *idea* of doggy
style so much it's enough to get them over the line.
So
sure, try a few different positions and see if it works, but if it's
too much like hard work, forget it. You're supposed to be enjoying
yourself here, and if you're perfectly happy having an orgasm
through missionary, why change? Tell your husband he should be
thankful for what he's got and to stop pressuring you. Maybe if
you're more relaxed, you MIGHT be able to come in another position,
but you have to feel comfortable with the whole deal.
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