| I've never
fingered a girl before and I need some tips quickly because my
girlfriend keeps coming on to me and I dunno what I'm doing. Please
help. Thanx. Steve.
Relax, you've made the first
important step which is to ask for direction:)
The big thing with manually
stimulating (or fingering) a girl is to know that it's her clitoris
that you want to focus on. That's the pleasure button at the top of
her slit. You have to stroke that gently - not too hard or rough -
and she'll soon be squirming. Don't just insert your fingers in
her vagina, she won't feel much there - women don't have very many
nerve endings in their vagina. You will mainly need to do that to moisten
your finger with her juices so you can keep rubbing the clit. (Don't
rub the clit if she's dry, it can be uncomfortable. In fact, if
she's dry you probably should kiss her some more and maybe lick her
nipples a bit until she's more turned on).
I've seen someone suggest to
stimulate her g-spot... my answer to that is, don't try yet. Some women do not have a g-spot, or they need training in order to
respond to it. The g-spot is not a magical button that can make a
woman orgasm, and young women are inexperienced when it comes to
having any kind of orgasm with a man, let alone a g-spot one.
I would also suggest you talk to her
while you're doing this. Ask her if it's OK, if you're doing it
right, if she wants you to go faster or slower... This means you
care about her and what you're doing - women can be very different
in what they find pleasurable, so asking is usually the best way to
find out what works for your girlfriend.
And if she says no, or it looks like
she really doesn't want you touching her, then stop.
Hope that's useful, please email if
you have any more questions.
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